When I read Anatomy of Peace 5 years ago, what stuck with me most was the idea of seeing people as people rather than objects. For instance, a microwave is an object. You use it to warm your food. If it doesn't work, you can get rid of it. A phone is an object. You can use it to call people, check the weather, keep a schedule, and find out all the information available on the Internet. If it stops doing that, you get a new phone. People are not objects. People can have tasks assigned to them, but they are not the tasks themselves. People can do things for you to be kind, but they are more than the kind actions done to you. So, just as a reminder . . . 1. If you are not attracted to your spouse because their appearance changed somehow (weight, wrinkles, haircut, etc.), then you do not see your spouse as a person, just a body. 2. If you are unkind to your spouse because they do not do something around the house, then you do not see them as a spouse but as a robot. (You never have to